Increasing the happiness in your daily life both at work and at large can result from refraining from some activities as well as adding others. Jeff Haden, writing for Inc.com, offers “Be Happier: 10 Things to Stop Doing Right Now” in a recent Owner’s Manual column.
Haden’s list makes for good management advice, but can be used for all interpersonal relationships. Among the activities we should all stop he includes blaming, criticizing, whining and dwelling on the past. His take on controlling is worth reading:
“If you find yourself trying hard to control other people, you’ve decided that you, your goals, your dreams, or even just your opinions are more important than theirs.
Plus, control is short term at best, because it often requires force, or fear, or authority, or some form of pressure–none of those let you feel good about yourself.
Find people who want to go where you’re going. They’ll work harder, have more fun, and create better business and personal relationships.”
So much management advice prescribes the positive things you should be doing and outlines the negative actions you should eliminate in your employees. Haden’s list of negative behaviors to eliminate in yourself puts a different spin on the topic, and it’s advice anyone can use.
Laura Abrahamsen, October 30, 2012